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There are always things that you could have done differently but you can’t, although you can influence your present and future experiences by doing things differently moving forward.
Whatever you wish you’d done differently, use it to grow and learn from the insights gained.
Some of the many ways that you can attract women are with your confidence, charisma, charm, humor and masculine vibe. The more ways that you can make a woman feel attracted to you while you talk to her, the more she will be willing to overlook the fact that you’re not a perfect male model with loads of money and are just a normal guy.
That’s the truth, even if some people don’t want to believe it.
Regret is often latching onto this idea that what you feel regretful about was the determining factor for the outcome. Possibly if it’s you and only you in the situation and you had a great deal of control over what you could do, but not the case if there are things beyond your control like people and circumstances.
If you see you as the ‘problem’ for another person’s behaviour, if you want to regret something, regret that you’d burden you with other people’s BS.
It also means not languishing on ‘mistakes’ – why keep throwing something back in your own face? It seems so easily forgotten but the past is the past for a reason – it’s already happened. Each moment you spend living in the past actually turns the present into a similar past.
Regret that you’re still adopting thinking and behaviour that disempowers you and then resolve to do better by you.
Regret hangovers grow in size when you feed them with a cocktail of blame, shame, guilt and obsessing followed by doing stuff off the back of these feelings in an attempt to prevent what you perceive as an unfavourable outcome, only to open you up to further pain.
After the struggles with December, I hear from lots of people who struggle with the ‘freshness’ of January.
It’s the sense of no longer being inside a year where an event or situation took place.